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Email7. It is only what we resist that causes us pain?
Last year at Success Intensive Malta, we did an open session and took questions.
Here are the answers…
Question: If it is only what we resist that causes us pain, does this mean that if we have pain we are resisting something?
Answer:Â Yes
Question:Â If yes, what do I do to find out what that something is so that I can release it.
Answer: Which pain are you referring to that you aren’t releasing? Is it the headache, or the bachache, maybe the tooth that’s sore, or even your heart that throbs in anguish? Â
But before you start thinking about that consider this.
Today I was lighting a small piece of charcoal on the propane stove. the coal became red hot, so I used metal tongs to pick it up. I placed the coal in the clay pot I use to burn insense, then with the tongs picked Iup a piece of insense to place on the coal. The insense piece was large and I wanted to break it into smaller pieces, so I chose to grab the tongs with my thumb and forefinger and squeeze really hard. I can’t describe the pain nor can I explain how it escaped my mind that doing that would be a bad idea.
“Hmm” I thought, “I can’t believe it, what did I do? that’s gonna hurt.”
I looked my fingers checking for damage. My forefinger survived without a mark, my thumb had already turned white I think that means the flesh is dead…or really burned. It began to throb/burn…whatever words we use to describe burn pain…bottom line it hurt.Â
“I can’t believe I did this.”
The pain began to intensified – approximately 15 seconds had now passed since I did it.
“If it’s hurting this much now I can only imagine how much it’s going to hurt in a few minutes, this thing is going to throb all night, what was I thinking?Now I don’t need this ”
Somewhere around the 20 second mark, I remembered your very question and about the power of resistance and how it causes pain.Â
I had first studied this concept more than 7 years ago. I had experiemented and tested it countless times. I tested the concept with when I experienced physical pain as well as  emotional pain. Â
It was fail proof, if I resisted what was happening or happened I experienced pain, if I accepted what was happening or happened the pain subsided.
It takes mental discipline and it does take some practice but if you consider that most people will spend more time learning how to use their remote control and how to manage their minds, it’s really not that big of a commitment to learn how to gain some mental discipline.
Being able to even recognize  that we’re actually even thinking, that is having thoughts, takes some practice, then in the heat of the moment to pinpoint the thoughts of resistance as they come up takes even more practice, but it can be done, if I can do it you can do it too!
 And I did it again tonight with my big fat blistered thumb. As I type I feel as though I’ve got a pad on my thumb but I don’t it’s just the swelling of the blister. The skin is all hard and white, it’s neat because it doesn’t hurt a single bit, and somebody at some point told me that this sort of thing should be hurting for days!
After those initial 15 seconds (by the way can you identify the thoughts I was having that were actually resisting the very fact that I had burned myself? If not have scroll back up and have a peak each one of those comments are resistance.)
I finally said something resourceful and asked myself “what will help this burn?” I really didn’t know, but running it under cold water seemed like a good idea…so that’s what I did.
It felt cool.  Then I got a hold of my thoughts. “Ok you burned yourself, it’s done.” Interestingly I didn’t feel the pain right away it was only after I was aboslutely sure that I burned myself that it started to hurt. Â
I just repeated a few times “ok this is a burn and it will hurt, it’s hurting and it’s going to hurt as long as it’s going to hurt and what else can I do…some ointment, more cool water” And now as I said I’m typing this message with no pain just a big fat blistered thumb. Truly I’m poking  it and everything!
So why the story you may ask? Well I’m hoping that you will recognize the ever so subtle thoughts of resistance that I had. You see resistance is not always an outward cry, a proclamation “I will not go, I will not do this” It is in the subtlies that power lies. It is the subtle resistances, the beliefs in and out of our consciousness, surrounding us in the words and beliefs of others many of which we may have become blind and deaf to that are the resistance we need to start hearing again.
Resistance is really just every single time we do not accept what is. From the weather, to the guy cutting us off, or the love of our life deciding to move on. It’s all the same energy, only our ego decides if its big or small, energy wise it’s all the same size and the size is “resisitance”.
Everytime we say “I can’t believe this, or no way, or I don’t like this, how could he do this, what was I thinking. Even when they are tiny little comments about something trivial, it is still resistance.” Â
On a day to day basis most of us generate more pain that we can even fathom simply through the act of not accepting what is. “It’s not raining!, I’m late again, It’s not time to wake up already”Â
Mastering what is – “Acceptance” is another Principle of Personal Power…those of you joining us in for 10,11 & 12 in Gozo…there’s a heads up for you.
So how do you find out what that something is so you can release it? Just by spending energy on focussing on find out what you don’t know will attract more of what you don’t know because it is the language of emotions the the powers that be communicate in.
Remember life is really easy, if you want to stop feeling pain and resistance causing pain, then don’t be looking for what causes pain invest your energy in doing what you want verses what you don’t want. In other words just focus on acceptance. when something happens you don’t like, oh well you don’t like it too bad,there it is all the same. If you want to feel better the faster you accept it the faster you can move forward. Â
Acceptance, Acceptance Acceptance
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